She overspends the credit card again. When confronted, she excuses her impulsive shopping. “That’s just who I am.”
People explain away anger, unfaithfulness, porn and even addiction with the excuse, “That’s just who I am.” That’s an identify crisis. Because no Christian’s identity is sin. “It is no longer I who do it, but it is sin living in me that does it” (Romans 7:20).
Your identity is healthiest when you are believing that what God says about you is absolutely true. Not the version of you that others see. Not even the image of yourself that you see.
“Then the disciple whom Jesus loved said to Peter, ‘It is the Lord’” (John 21:7)!
If you were to ask John who he is, his answer would focus on whose he is. Much like my laptop would answer “I’m a Mac.”
In writing the book of the Bible that bears his name, the disciple John identifies himself as the one Jesus loves.
You are loved. No matter how much you argue with that, how little you believe it, how much you’ve forgotten over the years about it, how sinful you are, or how disappointed you are in God—you are loved. You can’t change who you are in the eyes of Jesus, and the heart of God.
Loved. Hmmm. Maybe that’s your new answer to people who ask, “How are you today?”
It would say a lot to them. And to you.
PRAYER: God sometimes I excuse my sin by saying “that’s just who I am.” But who I am is a perfect and holy child of God. I am yours. I am loved. I am not sin. Lead me and love me to become your better version of me. Amen.
FURTHER MEDITATION: Practice this. Write it down. Put it on your calendar. When the next person asks you, “How are you?” Answer: “Loved.” Then go on to tell them that you are loved by God and that makes you who you are. Say a prayer about this now.